I am an occasional gamer who has been searching for a large pool of roleplayers for the purpose of asking some serious, thoughtful questions. I must make it clear that I am interested in any feedback anyone wishes to contribute in response to this posting. I apologize ahead of time if I offend; I entreat you that I am not attempting to do anything of the sort, but I realize that unspoken words are more readily misunderstood than their vocal brethren. Please believe that I am simply curious, and appreciate anything illuminating that anyone can offer. In short, I am sincerely interested in everyone's thoughts. Period.
Firstly, I was curious if most people mostly roleplayed with good friends or went to larger communities with strangers. (This includes the full gamut of gaming -- LARPing, tabletop, etcetera.) Feel free to expound on your reasons as you wish.
Secondly -- and from here the questions get much more complicated -- how do you feel about roleplaying with or around people whom you consider less-than-satisfactory in real life? Does everyone become equal in-character, or do you still act on personal feelings (meta-gaming, I suppose) when it comes to choosing the characters with which your own comes in contact? If you don't meta-game, how does the duality of sincerely enjoying roleplaying with someone you dislike (or potentially even hate) affect you? Would the sentence "I don't think that guy is a good person, but he's fine to hang out [and roleplay] with" escape your lips?
Thirdly, how do you feel about game-spawned jealousy? Would you blanch if your significant other roleplayed infatuation or a relationship with another gamer, or if another gamer made passes at your significant other they claimed were "in character?" I require absolute honesty for this question, as I am aware of the stereotypical stigma against woman and girlfriend gamers who become protective of their real-life partners, generated (in my experience) almost solely by males who profess to feel no such pangs of territorialism. I have known women to lie about the hurt they experienced when their serious boyfriend's character, for example, became engaged to another's other than her own; she believed she was "being ridiculous" because "no one else ever feels that way." Tell me truly: Do you cover up your game-generated jealousy because you believe you are one of the few who experience it, or are you completely free of such anxiety? My hopes are that if the former is true with most people, it will come out here and now and no one will feel sheepish about it.
Perhaps I will explain what motivated these questions later on, if anyone is curious or if it seems necessary and/or enriching.
Thank you so much for reading this. Again, I am sorry if I somehow offended anyone; I did not mean it. I am simply asking for honesty, to satiate my own curiosity.